This Week's Episode

Episode 28 - 5/28/2026

Ladies Don't Want More In the Bedroom. They Just Silently Read Smut Books.

In this episode of That's Not Very Ladylike, here's a fun little lie we've all been sold: that if a woman's pulled back in the bedroom, she's just not that into it anymore and that's that. Meanwhile she's three books deep into a series with a cracked spine and a very specific search history.

So which is it? In this episode I get into what's actually going on, how shifting hormones, a nervous system stuck in fight-or-flight, and a brain that's running on fumes quietly turn the volume down on desire, and why reading smut is so often the tell. It's not that the want went away. It's that the want needs different conditions than it used to. Let's talk about it.

2025 Episodes

Trailer: That's Not Very Ladylike
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Episode 2: Ladies Don't Rest. They Recover In Secret.

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Episode 3: Ladies Don't Talk About Their Periods In Public. They Whisper About PMS.

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Episode 4: Ladies Don't Talk About Perimenopause. They Pretend It's Just Stress.

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Episode 5: Ladies Don't Cancel. They Push Through.

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Episode 6: Ladies Don't Offend. They Overexplain.

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2026 Episodes

Episode 7: Ladies Don't Ask For What They Want. They Hint At It.

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Episode 8: Ladies Don't Show How Smart They Are. They Downplay It.

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Episode 9: Ladies Don't Trust Their Gut. They Outsource It.

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Episode 10: Ladies Don't Say They Don't Want Kids. They Say Maybe Later.

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Episode 11: Ladies Don't Speak Honestly to Their God. They Censor Their Pain.

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Episode 12: Ladies Don't Talk About Sex After 40. They Just Stop Having It.

2/5/2026

Episode 13: Ladies Don't Ask For Pleasure. They Just Fake It.

2/12/2026
Episode 14: Ladies Don't Talk Dirty. They Speak Delicately.

2/19/2026
Episode 15: Ladies Don't Initiate Sex. They Wait To Be Wanted.

2/26/2026

Episode 16: Ladies Don't Get Mad at Their Doctors. They Second-Guess Their Own Bodies.

3/5/2026
Episode 17: Ladies Don't Interrupt Mansplaining. They Get Talked Over.

3/12/2026
Episode 18: Ladies Don't Hate Their Jobs. They Are Lucky To Have One.

3/19/2026

Episode 19: Ladies Don't Ask For Labs Again. They Accept Normal.

3/26/2026
Episode 20: Ladies Don't Support Other Women. They Compete With Them.

4/2/2026
Episode 21: Ladies Don't Consider Divorce. They Pray For Resilience.

4/9/2026
Episode 22: Ladies Don't Break Up Friendships. They Ghost and Feel Guilty.

4/16/2026
Episode 23: Ladies Don't Take Compliments. They Explain Why They Don't Deserve Them.

4/23/2026
Episode 24: Ladies Don't Leave Jobs That Are Killing Them. They Call It Stability.

4/30/2026
Episode 25: Ladies Don't Say No. They Are Afraid Of What Happens If They Do.

5/7/2026
Episode 26: Ladies Don't Question the Cost of Emotional Labor. They Just Keep the Receipts.

5/14/2026
Episode 27: Ladies Don't Say They Hate Their Friend's Partner. They Just Stop Doing Couples Things.

5/21/2026
Episode 28: Ladies Don't Want More In the Bedroom. They Just Silently Read Smut Books.

5/28/2026